Improving Self Esteem with 10 Powerful Tips

by Jason on February 6, 2011

Hey Guys, today I have a really special video for you that’s going to show you 10 LIFECHANGING tips for improving self esteem.  And let me just say before we delve into it that EVERYONE can benefit from these tips.   Also – I want to point out that I just said 10 LIFECHANGING tips. 

That’s because self esteem is a characteristic that truly SHAPES your life.  Self esteem builds confidence and allows you to really just BE who you are.  It allows you to be true to yourself – in every way. 

So with that said, here are 10 powerful principles to improve your self esteem and boost your feelings of self worth through continued practice. 

Quick Disclaimer Here – Be aware that just knowing the info I’m about to reveal won’t be enough to raise self esteem.  You have to actually go through the motions and practice what I’m about to preach.  By taking action on these tips you’ll definitely feel a LOT better in time. 

So here we go with tip #1

1.      Stop Comparing Yourself. 

I’m sure at one time or another, you’ve looked at your neighbor, friend, family member or co-worker with envious eyes.  You’ve been enamored with someone else’s big salary, picturesque family life, perfect looks, ripped 6-pack – whatever.  Everyone on occasion falls victim to feeling inadequate as a result of someone else’s accomplishments.

I’m going to tell you right now, if you want to improve your self esteem, the very first thing you need to do is throw this habit out the window. 

Stop comparing yourself to other people.  Be your own person and love the skin you’re in. 

When you compare yourself with others, only two possible outcomes can arise. 

The first outcome is, you compare yourself with someone who is less fortunate than you.  Now, this can bring about feelings of gratitude where you learn to appreciate what you have and THIS scenario can have the affect of boosting your self esteem – which is good.

The problem is, when you become habitual with this comparing mentality, you’ll start more often than not comparing yourself to people who have qualities that you don’t possess.

More money, less weight, fancier cars, attractive counterparts, career, children – there are endless factors that make up who we are.  And when you start comparing yourself with other people you’ll tend to focus on the factors that you envy rather than the strengths and fortune that you already possess. 

2.      Keep Your Thoughts Positive.


We all have a constant monologue running through our brain.  It’s  just impossible to turn off that inner voice. If you’re constantly thinking negative thoughts that  reinforce feelings of low self esteem, the result will be just that.

It’s so important to stay aware of your thinking and not to fall into the habit of self-deprecation or talking down to yourself. 

Look for your strengths in everyday life and make it a practice to  continually pat yourself on the back for all your amazing  qualities.

You’ve got to create a habit here.  And that’s the habit of self-appreciation.  You can begin this new way of thinking every morning in the shower.  The shower is a great place to spend (even just 5 minutes) meditating  on how good you really are.  Congratulate yourself on every victory  or success – no matter how small.  Every little self-compliment will add up to greater feelings of self-worth.

Try using affirmations too.

It really forces you to engage in the exercise through a dependable mantra.  Using affirmations doesn’t have to be complicated.

You don’t have to repeat a wild chant or a longwinded prayer to use this strategy.

An affirmation is simply a way of asserting your confidence with a statement.  When you repeat an affirmation, you’re essentially confirming a believe in yourself out loud.  This can feel silly the first time you do it but it really is a healthy way to exercise your self esteem.

Once again, the morning shower is a great way to work this practice into your life without taking up a lot of time.

One of the easiest ways to use affirmations is to make short lists of positive factors in your life.

For example.  You could say:  I am an excellent listener, a talented artist, a hard worker, a kind person, well read, amazing in the kitchen, have beautiful teeth whatever…

Just list out the qualities that make you feel good about yourself.  Feel proud as you reflect on your good fortune.  Feel good to be you.

3.       Accept All Compliments with Thank You.


You may find that a lot of times, you’ll receive a compliment and respond with “Oh, it was nothing” or “It’s no big deal” etc.  I want you to know that this is a huge way to sabotage self esteem. 

When you essentially refuse a compliment, you’re telling yourself that you’re not worth the compliment.  You devalue yourself. 

I know this may sound overdramatic.  You’re not thinking at the time that the compliment is given “Ohhh I’m not worthyof  this praise” but in fact, the action turning down the compliment by brushing it off sends a message to your subconscious brain which in turn lessens your confidence and feelings of self worth.

You’re reinforcing the bad by not embracing the good.

Instead, accept every compliment with Thank You.  It’s a simple answer that will allow you to feel good about yourself and satisy the person giving the compliment.  So remember, you just can’t lose by saying Thank you.


4.       Find Positive Input


It’s so important to engage in activities that make you feel good.  Read books that inspire you, watch movies that make you laugh.

One thing I like to do watch some kind of motivational or inspirational clip on Youtube  every week.  Something that really puts my mind in a hopeful, positive light.

Another way to find positive input is to create a new challenge for yourself.  This could be something like learning a new language, mastering a skill or just working towards self improvement in some area of your life.

5.       Associate with Supportive People


Nothing lowers self esteem faster than associating with people who make you feel bad about yourself. Unfortunately, this is a common scenario for people with low self esteem.  They tend to group with people who they seek approval from.

It’s a scenario that sabotages self worth because they’ll always be worried about what members of the group think of them.

Break this habit by finding people who love you from the getgo.  Hang out with people who accept you unconditionally and respect who you are.

By the way, this won’t happen until YOU respect who you are – so work towards that goal first.

6.       Make a List of Past Successes


A great way to exercise self esteem is to celebrate all of your past successes.  Take the time to write down all your accomplishments (no matter how small) and bask in the light of your achievements.  Seeing your success on paper can make even the smallest victory more gratifying.

7.       List Your Positive Qualities


Much like the last tip, seeing how awesome you are on paper is great.  However, this tip has the added bonus of showing you what kind of person you are.  By knowing your strengths, you’ll be able to focus on actions that give you positive results in life.

As illustrated by the picture here, this strategy works well in both personal life AND business.

8.       Do Good For Others


Day to day life presents us with opportunities to do good deeds for others.  It could be someone who needs help opening a door, someone who needs help finding exact change for that vending machine in your office’s break room.  Whatever the situation, no matter how big or small, choose to help when you can.

You’ll feel better for it.

9.       Find Your Passion


We all feel better when we’re productive.  After finding your strengths through some of the exercises listed above, you’ll definitely know where your skills pack the biggest punch.

Find your passion in business, volunteer work, school or study and fortify you feelings of self worth.  Everyone has a talent.  Everyone has a skill.  Know yourself and follow your heart.

10.   Be true to yourself.


Staying true to your character in any situation is what defines your integrity.  Be moral. Be kind and strive to do the right thing in any situation.  When you have a strong moral compass, you’ll always be comfortable in your own skin.

And remember, don’t let fear and anxiety hold you back from good self-esteem.  Take the time everyday to work on it, using the strategies outlined above and you’ll be well on your well. 

Also, I’d love to hear some of your comments on what kind of things YOU do to improve your self esteem so please – chime in below and feel free to bring something to the table that I haven’t added.  All the best and Take care.  Bye Bye!

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